A 'Touchy' Subject
Sex and the 'feline' in us all!

 

 

  This is a totally unrelated picture but I rather like it as a portrait of someone I know! .....  and you can go 'home' from here! 

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So, Gentle Readers, moggi tackles the most interesting and yet the most delicate of subjects; arousal and sexuality

This is not meant to be a manual - but more of an encouragement  for all of you humans!  For a more detailed approach, with technique,  moggi suggests :      THE ONE HOUR ORGASM by Dr. Bob Schwartz ( pub. 1999, Breakthru Publishing - $12.95 paper back  available from:  

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Fur is to skin as purr is to ??????

Remember, all the time, how you act with your four legged friend.  When you touch, stroke, massage and pat us you do not think about your reward.  You certainly do not think about sexual arousal!

So why not see the skin on all the various parts of your lover's body as opportunities for sensuous enjoyment.  Take your time to explore and be explored.

Use the tips of your fingers to run down the skin of an arm, or a foot. Feel the sensation of connection and of just the thin veil of skin between the two of you.  What is that skin like - how does it feel to your touch?

- And just because you might get aroused do not think that you have to end up 'consummating the encounter'.  ( remember I don't really have the equipment , and so I just love the sensations without having to think of it going anywhere!)

We all have so many places to explore without coming to an ending before we have enjoyed the journey!

 

What I like about ME!

When I look at myself I enjoy that I have lovely soft colorful fur and that I can roll over on the ground and stretch in the sunlight.

I feel good - and I want to be told how wonderful I am at every touch and look that other cats and humans give me.  I want you to talk to me in a 'special' voice.

I want you to be specific.  What aspect of my wonderful luxurious 'me' do you enjoy.  And I will tell you by my reactions how I feel about you.  I love to feel you relax as I stretch and purr on your lap.

so do it to each other too .......

after all - you're only human!

Make a date for sensuality and sexuality and don't just 'have sex'.

All the crankiness and impatience between individuals in sexuality comes from a lack of awareness of the self, the other, and the space, and experience, in between .

 

'to have sex' is to try and possess an experience that has very little to do with the other person.  It is also concerned with 'getting off'. 'Being sexual is infinitely more pleasurable than have sex' .

Make love 'with' not 'to'.  I am not a 'project' to be accomplished.  

We are made up of all sorts of places in and on our body apart from 'boobs, bums and unmentionables'!  The whole of our bodies can be erogenous zones - places from which erotic sensations emerge.

'ejaculation should not be confused with orgasm'.  The two can be in the same moment but that does not necessarily have to be the case.

'limp celery' can also be fun, once in a while.  The important thing is to be with what is and enjoy the experience.  Not to turn love into a performance art. If there is an ongoing problem be open to all the solutions, not just the ones that might result in a good performance.

The Myth of Orgasm!  Do not think that if your partner does not have an orgasm that she has not had an erotic, sensual experience.  Sex is not comparable to a graded test, and the orgasm is not the Good Housekeeping Seal of Approval!  

' the end does not always justify the means ' ..... take that anyway you like to interpret it!

And remember - TALK!! And have fun talking.  There should be no sense of failure, or even goals, only expressions of enjoyment and curiosity.